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The Strength Hiding In Your Weakness

This is an incredible blog post that I had to re-post today! For one like me who has felt weakness at every level, I have learned from these lessons about the strength that hides there. It can only be found when we are seeking….

 

During the time I have worked with people as a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Personal Coach, there is one thing that holds people back from getting the help they desire. They are tired of being stuck in their weight, stuck in their work, relationships, and their unwanted emotions.

In essence, they are sick and tired of being sick and tired. In spite of how they feel, there is one thing that holds them back from working with me…

They perceive that getting the help of someone else means that:

  • They are weak
  • There is something wrong with them
  • They are broken
  • They are crazy because only crazy people work with a hypnotherapist

Their perception is keeping them from receiving the help that they desire. As a result, the strength that they have is never allowed to come forward. In this case, their strength is hidden by their weakness.

Lessons About The Strength Hiding In Your Weakness

The Strength Hiding In Your WeaknessI want to help you see this from a different point of view. I feel that once you see it from the proper perspective, you will see this for what it is.

I have learned a number of valuable lessons about this.

1. Those that come seeking help are demonstrating their strength, not weakness. When people come to see me, even if I know nothing else about them, I know that they are strong just by the mere fact we are working together. They are showing that they want to be better, they want to improve, they want to heal, and they want to overcome.

Those are signs of strength, not weakness.

I know plenty of people that are comfortable being uncomfortable. Even though they are miserable, they are okay staying uncomfortable because they don’t want to change. Even though they have the strength and power needed to change, their weakness gets in the way of what could be their strength.

The lesson: Weakness never seeks strength.

2. The achievements of top performers are rarely achieved on their own. Every top performer I know is constantly looking for an edge; a way to have an advantage over others. That one little tip, tweak, or change can make all the difference in the world.

Because they want to improve and get better, they seek outside direction and guidance. This is normally done in the form of a coach or trainer. Because of the expertise of the coach, they can guide them on how to improve and be better. Even top performing mothers have a “coach” that they go to for advice. That coach is usually their own mother as they seek her advice and experience.

As I started my own business, I frequently sought out the advice of other coaches. I spent thousands of dollars on people that taught me how to start a business, how to do marketing, build websites, and much more. Their expertise shortened my learning curve and helped me find success faster.

The lesson: Seeking outside help will make you stronger in a shorter period of time.

3.  Having a support system provides confidence and comfort during difficult times. I learned this lesson when I was very young.

At age 16, the mother of one of my high school friends was terminally ill with brain cancer. On the night of her passing, I found out about it pretty quick and I made the decision just to go be with him and do what I could to lighten his burden.

To be honest, I don’t remember much of what happened that night. I remember that we talked a little, played some ping pong, and I did my best to help him smile. I know that as a 16 year old, my ability to provide comfort was limited.

However, this friend constantly thanked me for coming over that night to support him. Even well into my adult years and being married, he would still send me messages thanking me for what I did for him that night.

I understand what he meant. A little over 10 years ago, my father passed away. It was a very difficult time in my life. I still remember the people that sent cards, brought over a meal, those that stopped by to visit, and those that came to pay their respects. I remember those gestures because they were a source of strength.

The lesson: Having support of others is not a weakness, it is a valuable strength.

This is why there is strength hiding in your weakness. The “weakness” that you want to overcome helps bring out that strength of your character. It is that strength of wanting to improve and be the person you were meant to be.

I hope you can see this from a different point of view now and that your strength can shine through your weakness.

reblogged from www.hypnotherapyfreemind.com

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Healing My Limitations

healingAt one point in my life I was a runner. I loved the freedom I felt as I found a steady rhythm that match my music and soul. Not only did I find strength in my body, but I found strength in my mind as I would let go.

One day I experienced a pain like no other pain I had felt. It seemed like there was a knife cutting through the side of my knee. No matter how much I worked at it, I could not run through this pain. 

I spent many years trying different types of shoes, thinking there was a magical pair that would heal my knee. I worked at stretching, interval running, strengthening and so forth. There never was a long term solution, so I simply ‘accepted’ the fact that I was not to run anymore.

My heart has wanted to run so many times, especially now that we live in an area where it is safe to run. Not only is it safe, it is incredibly beautiful.

I have been pondering this knee pain and the limitation I felt it had put in my life. I decided last week that I would return to running, one way or another, I would run again.

It is amazing how Heavenly Father orchestrates our lives. When we have a desire in our hearts, it seems as though life aligns to realize it.

I am now one belt away from earning my black belt in karate. This is has been a journey in and of itself. One of the requirements is running. When I heard this my heart dropped and my body went into ‘you can’t because of your knee’ mode. I felt it so profoundly in every part of me. I felt the power the limitation had over me.

With a background in Physical Therapy and Sports Medicine, I ran through all of the scenarios in my mind of this chronic knee pain. I couldn’t find a solution that would work for me. I hate that more than anything, because I feel so trapped.

Today I decided I would get on the treadmill, no matter what. I am not going to let this win. My husband started to challenge my thoughts of being limited by ‘knee pain’. He wouldn’t let me make any excuses or allow anything that resembled limited thinking. He knows just the right buttons to push to get me thinking and moving forward (I will say that as I stepped on the treadmill I had a growl in my head).

As I began to run, I focused my thoughts on healing and strength. I found a gait that was so comfortable, a pace that was perfect and a rhythm that spoke to my soul. I could feel fearful knee pain thoughts creeping in. I decided not to allow them access to my mind, body and soul. As I fought them off, I felt myself relax and enjoy the little journey I was on.

That short little run was one of the most healing experiences I have had. My self-imposed limitations had affected my body to such a degree that I was not able to do something that I truly love. Healing that limitation and turning it into a freedom was so powerful to my mind, body and soul.

Our minds are a gift from Heavenly Father. There is so much power that lies within them…power to become incredible or nothing at all. It is all in how we choose to exercise this power. Today I chose to let it heal me.

Pushing Barriers

The climbFor as long as I can remember I have been deathly afraid of heights and falling. There is a special sensation that grips the back of my legs when I feel like I am up too high or too close to a ledge…and don’t even ask me to look up.

This can get a little ridiculous at times. When we first hiked up the road to spend time in my mountain, I looked back and this feeling gripped my legs, heart and lungs. I was standing on a solid road, not even close to a drop off. I didn’t let it stop me that day, however I had to push through it. I have never regretted that. My mountain hold so many treasures for me…the waterfall, paths that lead somewhere and nowhere at the same time, peace, inspiration, and rocks to climb. 

barriersI have often thought about this barrier in my life and how it can prevent me from discovering amazing places and experiences. I realized that if I had allowed it to control me that day, I would have never found the incredible emotions that spread through me as I spend time in a place I love.

How often do the barriers that I feel in my life prevent me from experiencing, living and feeling?

If I see a barrier for what it truly is, then I am more likely to conquer it. So what is a barrier? My answer to this came from a discussion I had with my incredible husband. We were talking about how often we limit ourselves and why we do this. How many influences in our lives, when allowed, will hold us back.

I have found that a barrier is anything that is placed upon our hearts, spirits and minds that prevent us from moving forward and becoming who we are meant to be. At the core of it all is the adversary who wants nothing more than to bind us completely. He does it all so quietly and little by little until we accept the hold he has on us as ‘safety’ or ‘reality’.

the viewToday I decided to break from my traditional workout and accept an invitation from my husband to climb to a huge rock that sits high in my mountain. We hiked straight up over a thousand feet, climbing over rocks, and creating a path for ourselves…the entire time I kept my eyes on the ground (mostly because I didn’t want to roll the ankles). When we reached our destination I looked back on where we had come from. In spite of that sensation gripping my legs, the view was BREATHTAKING! I had pushed through my barrier and found something far more beautiful! I also found that my fear is a perception…not reality.

We found a rock that was bigger than we imagined. We found the power that onlyconquering comes through conquering. We found inspiration. We found life!

Life is meant to be lived. It is only through living that we find ourselves…who we were before we came and who we are meant to become. Barriers are meant to be pushed, stretched and broken. Doing this gives us the strength to do it again and again.

Pushing BackOnce again, I found Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ on the other side of the barrier….showing me the magic of life.

Getting Back Up

Balance is a tricky thing. It is something we all strive to achieve, however it is quite fragile when we think about it. I have learned a few things about balance over the past couple of days…and file9221299618382learning about balance means we don’t always maintain it in the process.

This morning as I was doing a balance portion of my Insanity workout, I noticed a few things that struck me. As I stood there on one foot while kicking with the other one, I took note of the reasons I was having balance checks and wobbles. When my focus strayed from the spot I use to center myself, my balance followed it. When my core was not solid, neither was the balance. When my foot decided the surface I was standing on wasn’t stable enough, my balance decided to take a walk. When I wasn’t centered with my entire body, balance was not an option. (more…)

I Can Do Hard Things

I have been in an Insanity workout mode for the past couple of weeks. This is one of the most difficult workout series I have ever done. I started it 3 years ago and I have done it ever since. I DSCN1514have added in karate and P90X2 along the way to keep it mixed up. Yet for cardio and simply leaving everything I have on the floor…this wins hands down.

Today I decided I needed to bring up the intensity level so I did the Max CardioConditioning workout. It is 45 minutes of hard endurance training. It was 45 minutes of life learning for me today. (more…)

Because I Can

It is good for us to re-examine our ‘whys’ from time to time. Last week I took a recovery week. This is not something I would naturally do, however my body told me otherwise.072013165225

We have been training in karate for the belt we just received. It required of us to do 75 squats, 25 push-ups, 25 v-ups and 25 shoulder-bridge-reaches along with all of the katas, self-defense techniques, weapons forms, sparring, power karate and explosive kicks. It was 2 of the most intense hours I have spent. It was purely amazing! (more…)

Vulnerable Strength

beltpromojune 121We are currently involved in a Boot Camp. This camp is a training ground for us to receive our next belt in karate. The closer we get to our black belt, the more intense the training has become. It is as it should be.

During one of our camps one of our instructors told us what the ceremony was for those who had successfully achieved their next belt. They would stand in horse stance and all of the black belts would walk by and either punch or kick them in the stomach. It sounded a little barbaric to me, however tradition was defining. What he said next stuck with me at a deep level.

“There is something about surrendering yourself to total vulnerability that creates within you the knowledge that you can do hard things.” (more…)

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